By Dr. Lee Miller
[dropcap]A[/dropcap] person’s mind is a powerful tool. In one sense, it can be compared to a loaded gun. Both are very useful and have their purpose, however, there are times an individual may not really realize or understand exactly how powerful each of these possessions can be. The mind or a gun can be used for a right or wrong reason. It just depends who is using it.
We’ve been blessed with a right mind, giving us the ability to think, reason, to make important decisions in our lives that could very well effect our entire being. But, there is something that needs to be stated and understood by all concerned. When it comes to a gun or our mind, both are very powerful tools or weapons, yet, neither operates independently from the one who possesses them!
But, a gun or weapon is not the focus of this article, it was only mentioned for illustrative purposes. The subject matter in this discussion is primarily the mind, what an individual thinks or the thoughts that are allowed to stay in a person’s mind. Believe it or not, we are in control with what remains in our minds.
We can read about historical events that have occurred in our world, current situations at this very moment that exist, such as, adverse governments, wars, atrocities, even laws that are contrary to our beliefs or principles, all because of the power of the mind. Ideas that someone allowed to enter into their minds, and it gave birth to a concept or idea that ultimately effects the entire world.
Now, let me say, that I am not a Psychologist or a Psychiatrist, and possess all the experience needed to address such a topic matter as the mind. However, I do have the experience of dealing with people, while in the ministry for nearly 30 years, including being a pastor for over 9 years. For many years I have personally worked with different individuals through counselling, and discovered that when it came to problems, situations in peoples lives, the major problem in most cases, was what they were thinking or what was on their mind.
Here is a good example, primarily, I do marriage counselling, and have learned that the biggest problem or situation that a couple has stems from a major misunderstanding, and where or when did it all start or begin? In the mind. A misinterpretation of your partners actions or what they may of said is a major stumbling block in most relationships. This is how it is in most marriages, a husband does or says something and his wife knows exactly what he meant or vice-a-versa.
Now, here is the problem, most of the time, the one receiving the message is interpreting, thinks, knows for sure what the other meant. Yet, on the other side, the one who sent the message, has an entirely different meaning of what they were trying to say. Then, during our counseling session, when I’m made aware of the current situation, I will ask the offended party what they thought the other meant, or was really saying. After this question, then I will ask the offender if that was the message they intended to relay? Usually, the response is no. So, the lesson here is this, especially in a marriage, leave the communication lines open, and when there is a disagreement, just ask is what I’m thinking the way it is? Did you mean what I think you meant?
In closing, our mind is a powerful tool that we have been blessed with. What you do with it is up to you. But, remember this, what is in your mind will either help you or hurt you.
My name is Dr. Lee Miller. I am a ordained pastor who enjoys writing articles that will encourage someone who may be going through a difficult period in their life.