By Mike J. Collins
[dropcap]T[/dropcap]he Christian man sometimes has the image of being a knight in shining armor. But the truth is, even Christian men are faced with daily temptations. Christian men must be equipped in the full armor of God as stated in Ephesians 6:13; “Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.” Any cracks in the Christian man’s armor will eventually be exploited by the enemy.
While there are many possible reasons why any man would cheat, I submit to you that there is one primary reason that may surprise you; it’s a crack in his armor. The surprising thing is that this crack is not imposed by the enemy but instead, it’s sustained in his own camp – his home.
Do you know that every man has an internal need and desire to be respected and feel respected, especially where his wife is concerned? This is why Paul admonishes wives to respect their husbands. If this need is not satisfied by his wife, than it becomes a crack in his armor. Satan will strategically use this crack to cause this man to fall into temptation.
You see, the wife is a mirror for the husband. She reflects an image of him that will either build him up or tear him down. If the wife doesn’t respect her husband and demonstrates it in her behavior towards him, it will eventually give him a distorted image of himself.
This will lead to other problems in the relationship such as a break down in communication, as well as a break down in sexual intimacy. If a woman doesn’t respect her husband it is likely she will not desire him sexually. And although a man may never say it, it’s important to him that his wife desires him. He doesn’t want to feel that loving him and being intimate with him is a chore. The Christian husband has a relationship with Christ, albeit weak, he knows right from wrong. But because he’s not wearing the full armor of God and the armor that he is wearing is cracked, his flesh takes over and he makes the wrong decision a lustful decision. This is one of the reasons why the Word of God tells us that “we must die to our flesh” daily. With a strong relationship with Christ and wearing the full armor of God, the husband honors the covenant relationship with his wife more than feeding his wounded ego and his fleshly desires.
To sum it up, men cheat for several reasons but I believe it usually, but not always, begins with a feeling of not being respected at home. But then, this reason does not justify the sin. It is still sin in the eyes of God and there is no excuse for it.
As men we must strive to have stronger relationships with Christ daily so that when we are faced with the temptation of sexual sin, we can “die to the flesh” and continue to honor Christ and our wives. “Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.” Ephesians 6:13.
Mike J. Collins, Nehemiah Family Ministries – http://www.Christian-Marriage-Today.com.