By Charles Parse
[dropcap]I[/dropcap]n our daily lives, single Christian women and men have found comfort and enjoyment with the company of their boyfriends and girlfriends, so much so that they have become emotionally dependent on each other. However most often than not, this emotional and physical closeness has exposed them to the probable consequences and dangers of premarital sex.
The virtue of virginity has been with us since the Roman medieval times when kings, queens, princes, princesses, ladies and their knights protect themselves with “chastity belts” against temptation and rape. It was thought of as a blessing, of high value and even good luck in some cultures. Preserving a woman’s dignity and honor for her husband and knight was regarded as one of the purest virtues of the highest order. For those unfamiliar with the device, it is a locking item of clothing worn by people either male or female, designed to prevent sexual intercourse. In these modern times, virginity is regarded by many as nonsensical or absurd.
At present, as virgins are becoming an endangered species and mankind needing a more relevant alternative, this highly regarded and revered old practice was replaced by another old practice which is abstinence before marriage. The New Testament has lots of passages in the Bible that mentions about sex before marriage. In one verse the apostle Paul wrote, “Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.”(NIV, 1 Corinthians 7:8-9). Jesus and our Christian faith emphasized this in order to teach us and the whole humanity how to discipline ourselves and thereby instill world order and prevent global chaos caused by pestilence.
To our beloved single Christian women and men. Remember that, sexual intercourse outside of the confines of marriage is called “fornication”. Again, in the New Testament, Jesus Christ even mentioned of “sexual immorality” as one of human’s frailty when He said, “What comes out of a man is what makes him ‘unclean.’ For from within, out of men’s hearts, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. All these evils come from inside and make a man ‘unclean.'”(NIV, Mark 7:20-23)
Likewise, the apostle Paul even wrote, “But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.”(1 Corinthians 7:2) Here we are being taught to marry so that we can satisfy our passions in a moral way, since many people cannot control themselves and are having immoral sex outside of marriage. He further said, “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins people commit are outside their bodies, but those who sin sexually sin against their own bodies. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”(TNIV, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20)
May I praise those who practice abstinence before marriage after closely analyzing the benefits of this venerated practice has to offer in our Christian living particularly to our single Christian women I find it very relevant, logical, systematic and practical in our modern living.
Among its numerous benefits are as follows:
- avoidance of possible early, untimely and unwanted pregnancies,
- avoidance of abortions and the killing of innocent babies lives,
- avoidance of children growing up without both parents in their lives,
- avoidance of possible transmission and spread of venereal diseases or STD,
- avoidance of the feeling of shame, anxiety, guilt and frustration,
- avoidance of parental rejection and termination of financial support,
- avoidance of economic hardships caused by probable inadequate financial capability of couples in coping with unplanned family expenses.
Abstinence is God’s only answer when it comes to sex before marriage. It is His only cure to sexual immorality which causes the above human pains and sufferings. And as God’s promise to those single Christian women and men who honored Him by faithfully following His advice, what is now an exalted Christian practice and belief, you shall then reap God’s rewards by having a blessed, well thought of & planned married life because you have sacrificed and prepared for it by positioning yourselves righteously, cleverly and thus, Godly.