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    7 Ways to keep negative people at arm’s length

    7 Ways to keep negative people at arm's length
    7 Ways to keep negative people at arm’s length

    By Eva Bell

    [drop cap]T[/drop cap]he friends we have and the company we keep can influence our actions, our emotions and even our philosophy of life. Medical researchers have proved that positive relationships and socialization with the right kind of people can keep a person in good mental, physical and spiritual health. Conversely, lack of healthy friendships and social support can lead to illness or even premature death. It is therefore important to develop a good Relationship IQ – to seek the company of people who are stable in character, trustworthy and have a healthy, robust attitude to life. Cultivating friendships with negative people is a call to misery.

    Characteristics of Negative People:

    No one in the world is perfect. We come with our own individual quirks and deficiencies. But there are limits beyond which relationships become unhealthy. The sooner we recognize this the easier it becomes to prevent, avoid or if possible repair dysfunctional relationships. Some traits stand out as destructive.

    • Aggressive behavior: Such a person always wants to be in a controlling position. He will dominate and manipulate people. He wants authority without accountability. He is stubborn and self willed and flares up when he can’t have his way. He believes that in order to stay on top he must demolish opposition and competition.

    • Intimidation: This is a bully. He will intimidate through speech and manner and humiliate the other person into subjection.

    • Selfishness and Self-centeredness: He has his own interests at heart and is unsympathetic to the feelings of others.

    • Abuse of Power: He exploits his subordinates; is dishonest and deceptive; Sexual harassment in the workplace is common; At home, he may subject his wife to physical and emotional abuse.

    • Narcissism: He boasts and brags about himself. His inflated sense of importance makes him believe that he is always right. He thrives on flattery and adulation.

    • Integrity Deficit Disorder: He knows what is right but doesn’t do what is right. He is unreliable and cannot be trusted. He is hypercritical and ready to devalue others. Empathy is something he knows nothing about.

    • Indecisiveness: Such a person wants others to decide how he should act. He is reactive rather than pro-active.

    • Chronic grumbling: People or circumstances are always blocking his progress – a sure sign of incompetence.

    • Negative view of life: He never takes risks for fear of failure.

    How to Steer Clear of Negative People:

    1. Most people who get into destructive relationships lack self esteem. Learn to love and value yourself so that no one can bully, intimidate or manipulate you. Make it clear that you will not tolerate aggressive behavior. Walk away from such a relationship without losing your cool. Reacting in anger will only give the bully satisfaction.

    2. Never defend or cover up for such people. Expose them.

    3. Challenge any situation with which you do not agree.

    4. If your boss is a tyrant and unprincipled, make sure that his orders are in writing or in some verifiable form.

    5. Walk away from people who whine all the time. They will depress you and color your view of life. Refuse to take on other people’s anxieties and resentments.

    6. Avoid gossip mongers.

    7. Choose your marriage partner wisely. Shun a bully or a person exhibiting destructive behavior. Your life partner should make you feel good about yourself. There must be honesty, mutual respect and the ability to communicate freely.

    Happiness is the best way to keep destructive people out of your life. Staying in the company of untrustworthy, incompetent and insecure people would mean endorsement of such behavior. Set high standards for yourself and refuse to deviate from them. Surround yourself with healthy friendships and people of integrity. Do not give away your personal power by subjugating yourself to destructive people. Develop your relational skills.

    Eva Bell is a Fellow of the Royal College of Obstetricians & Gynecologists. She is a freelance writer, and her articles, short stories and children’s stories have been published in magazines, newspapers, on the Net, and in several anthologies. She is the author of: Novels – “Silver Amulet,” “When Shadows Flee,” “Halo of Deceit.”

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    4 COMMENTS

    1. Lol another article showing the true colors of “positive and optimistic” self centered fucks.. Always using “negativity” or “toxicity” as an excuse to dump people when they’re a little bit negative because they’re going through a bad time in their life… This rubbish that only stay with you when you’re super happy, may god have mercy on you if you have a problem, unless you’re ok with these “untoxic” “positive” “friends” dumping you for ONE time you weren’t hurr durr super positive… I’m sorry i made your Highness feel bad for a minute lol… Pseudo positive scum bags behave exactly like people on modern dating, dumping others for childish reasons lol

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