I’m a single Christian lady who loves God and is loyal to my pastor and his wife, as they are my spiritual parents. I am beginning to feel uncomfortable, because my pastor sometimes calls me after 10pm when he runs to the store alone. Every Sunday afternoon, he finds a way to call me to ask how his preaching went. He is also very particular about the men I associate with. I’m beginning to sense he is interested in me. Am I wrong?
Your pastor’s behavior is inappropriate. Is he interested in you? Maybe, maybe not. His actions are at the very least unwise and inconsiderate of his wife.
Put yourself in his wife’s shoes: Would you want your husband making after-hours calls to a single woman? Would you want him calling random members of the church to act as a sounding board for his preaching?
Of course not.
There could be a protective reason for your pastor’s interest in the men around you, but his behavior overall is suspect.
I’m reminded of the Apostle Paul’s words to the Corinthian church: “But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.” The Corinthian church shone its light amidst a cesspool of sexual perversion and provocation. “Sacred” prostitutes worked the pagan temples of Corinth; homosexuality was widespread; adultery was taken for granted. Paul knew the young believers in Corinth would encounter many sexual temptations because of the environment they were in, so he encouraged them to find an outlet for their God-given sexual desires within the bounds of marriage.
Consider Paul’s words again: Since there is so much immorality… Hmm. That sounds exactly like the day we’re living in, doesn’t it? A rampantly immoral age calls for exceptional vigilance. A wise Christian leader not only flees from sexual immorality, as Paul commands in 1 Corinthians 6:18; he also avoids any appearance of evil. A pastor must guard his integrity, for “a good name is more desirable than great riches” (Proverbs 22:1).
Stop taking your pastor’s calls after 10 pm, and see if his attitude changes toward you. If he responds in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable, find another church. Fast.
Does that sound extreme? I don’t think so. Declining to accept his late-night calls is a silent rebuke. If he’s wise and has a pure heart, he’ll back off.
Mrs. Happy has been married to one man for a long time.
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i once had a married pastor ask me why nice looking single girl like me wasnt married..the men in his family had women issues..with flirtation..etc..i never felt comfy around that pastor..i finally left his church
I am a Christian Man, I once had my apostle whisper in my ear that she wanted to see more of me, while standing on the alter. I didn’t think much of it at first, but the second time around when she said it to me again, I began to question exactly what is it that she wants to see more of??? Both times she said those words were at an unusual tone, but the second time was more sensual than the first. I’m trying to stay on a spiritual level with this thing, but this just doesn’t seem like something to look past or overlook…
I am a Christian Man, the apostle at my church, whispered in my ear that she wanted to see “more of me”, in a very unusual tone, while standing at the alter. I didn’t think much of it at first, but the the second time around, she said it again, and this time she had more of a sensual tone in her voice, and her lips were very close to my ears. I’M trying to stay on a spiritual level with this situation.
I can relate. The day my pastor asked me to secretly travel with him, I woke up and smelled the rotten coffee. I was fooled into thinking he was a spiritual father. It turns out he was a spiritual wolf in sheep clothing looking for an innocent girl to devour. Women need to shine their eyes and shop falling into disgusting pits dug by some of these so called men of opportunity not God.
What should I do if the Pastor is unmarried man and he posted my picture in his private twitter account without asking my permission and i just found the picture and it leave me speechless. He keep keep posting my picture in his status . I feel Super uncomfortable.
For all those who have further questions about their pastor or spiritual leader flirting with them, I suggest learning more at http://www.clergysexualmisconduct.com. I’m so glad that Mrs. Happy is calling his behavior what it is – inappropriate. This website was designed to help people who is experiencing this or is even further down the road and engaged in a sexual relationship with the leader.
If your pastor was caught engaged in inappropriate behavior with someone in your church, you should definitely check out that website, too. Very helpful and in-depth.