Holidays are generally a stressful and challenging period for everyone. 2021 is particularly significant; COVID-19 drama, grief, financial crunch and the gradual return to normalcy for a lot of people had been difficult.
The thought of keeping the house clean, cooking the perfect meal, and even holding harmonious conversations can sometimes be overwhelming. But thankfully, you and your family can have peaceful holidays free of stress even if it feels like you’re losing your grip.
Thanksgiving Day, the beginning of the holiday season is a day to be thankful. It heralds Christmas and New Year’s Day. We all have something to be thankful for – especially being alive to witness another holiday season. Let’s discuss five ways to have a peaceful holiday season with our families.
Let go of what you cannot control
Some people naturally have an innate need to want to control every situation and even control the actions of other people, but the truth is, it doesn’t make sense. The earlier we realize that we cannot control everything and people, the better for everyone.
It is important to know that you cannot control everything that is going on around you. You cannot control your neighbors or your family members. The only thing you can control is YOU… and how you react to situations and people.
Realizing this on time will help you let go of what you cannot control. This may be harder for some than others. But at a time when we are gathering together and giving thanks for our blessings, it’s a good idea to take a step back, a deep breath and decide you will let go of control.
Be mindful of unnecessary stressors
In a bid to have a perfect holiday, we let ourselves worry too much and this can be stressful.
Did you take on too much? Decide to cook too much food? Always take a step back to think and identify all the unnecessary stressors that might pop up and remove them.
When you remove unnecessary stressors from your holiday and even your everyday life, you will start to feel more peaceful and calm. When you are more peaceful and calm, you will be able to enjoy your day and family more to their fullest.
Love people for who they are. Not who you want them to be
You might not always agree with every decision someone makes with their life, but people will always be people so love them anyway.
That you disagree with someone, or that they are different does not mean you cannot love them. Look past those things you disagree with and love them anyway.
Learn that it’s okay to say No
Though it’s a healthy choice to love people for who they are, not saying no when you need to isn’t healthy for you. Loving someone doesn’t mean you can’t say no to them.
You need to learn to set boundaries with people, especially if you feel they overstep or that it’s necessary.
People say no for all kinds of reasons – sometimes, the request goes against their morals or conscience. Or they are burnt out and need to set priorities.
Being able to say no can help you focus on what is most important to you, what your boundaries are and also take away unnecessary stressors that you do not need nor want in your life right now.
Focus on the positive
Yes, there might be lots of hardship all over the place, that doesn’t mean you cannot focus on the positives.
What are your blessings? What are you fortunate to have? What have you achieved? What have you let go of? What positives are in your life?
You have a healthy family, full stomachs and a roof over your heads. Some people cannot say all of those things, that alone is enough to be thankful for. There are positives in almost every situation, they just need to be found.
Make a list if you need to of all the blessings and positives that you have in your life, make your children do the same. It’s a good way to learn to be just a little more grateful for the lives we have been given and the people who are in our lives.
Wishing you a happy holiday season.